I truly believe that we teach people how to treat us. Whatever we accept, whatever we allow, whatever we put up with, teaches the other person how far they can go or get with us. With that being said, forgiving someone shouldn't be an excuse to allow someone to walk all over you just because you are a forgiving person. There is a saying that goes, 'Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me'. Although we are expected to forgive people, that doesn't mean that we have to put up with their actions that caused whatever issue or rift that they needed the forgiveness for. Forgive and forget is often used in a manipulative way. We can forgive a person for what they have done to us, but when their actions start showing that they are prone to repeat those actions, we can't help but to remember that former pain, and begin to guard ourselves against it. Don't let anyone make you feel bad because THEIR actions have caused a Deja Vu. The word Deja Vu is a French term that means "already seen". There are some things we only need to see once to get an understanding. Once you begin to see it again, you can see the intent behind the person and really see that they were only sorry for the moment, or sorry that you found out their intent. So you can either continue to repeat this process, or do something about it. If you choose to allow someone to repeat a process over and over, you have taught them that they can do whatever they want to you, and you will accept their apology every time. I choose to teach people how to treat me by not allowing myself to be walked on any longer. What will you Teach Them?
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