I was told by my MIL (Mother in love) that a divorce is like a death. So that made me start thinking about that, and I found it to be true. With any death, there is a grieving process. This process is different for everybody. Imagine going through a long illness, and the whole time you’re going through it, you are believing and praying for healing. You put all that you have into healing your body, whether it’s following doctor’s orders, natural remedies, or praying and holding on to your faith, and the end of the illness results in death, and not healing. Sometimes, that’s what happens to people who are married. The marriage becomes ill, they seek counseling, follow the counselor’s orders, and seemingly do all that is required, and the end result is divorce anyway. So how do you move on from that?
I don’t have all the answers, I’m still trying to figure things out as I go along. One of my favorite songs right now is Level by Stoakley. (Nope...it’s not a gospel song, it’s a love song.) It speaks about being happy because he found someone on his level. He describes all of the attributes of the one he found who’s on his level. So maybe, just maybe, we weren’t on the same level, who knows? But this is what I do know. I will be WHOLE while I wait for the one who is on my level. I hear people refer to their significant others or spouses as their other half. This implies, that that were only half a person before their partner came into their life. That won’t be my story. I will be healed, and whole, so that when my significant other comes along, they will be on my level, a part of my whole...not my other half.